Teacher: Tim Geil
Date: 2021-07-05 Monday
- Dhamma in Daily Life (Monday evenings, 2021) 2021-01-11 Keri Pederson, Sooz Appel, Steve Wilhelm, Tim Geil, Tuere Sala
Practice and Reflection
The first half of the month, we will explore how we create the “Other” in relationships. This is the creation of separation triggered by relationship conflict. In particular, notice the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” from Gottman’s research: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. All of these are maintained by our unwillingness to release our story and projections. Practice recognizing what thoughts you are believing. If appropriate, connect with the other person to see through that story. Releasing the story allows us to connect with what is actually here, freeing the present moment from our past.